What’s your why, how to find your why and process the thoughts and feeling you go through in a day. We all do things differently and if you step back and look there’s so much to find.
Let’s start with why I am writing this. In short, it is a creative outlet. Through different choices in my life, I ended up in a position that allows me a lot of time and freedom. With that freedom, I get to spend a lot of time listening to Audiobooks, podcasts, YouTube, and online courses, becoming full of information. I want to share that knowledge by condensing it into useful parts for those who lack time.
What’s your why? Why do I want to have money, why do I want to get fit, why do I want a Lambo, why do I get so mad when I get cut off, why am I depressed, why do drink so much, why do I fear rejection, and why is Starbucks so popular for wildly average coffee?
When you start asking yourself why it can profoundly lead you. If I were to say I want to be wealthy and leave it at that, there is a pretty strong chance it will never happen. I may inherit a fortune or win the lottery, but most likely not. Wanting to be wealthy is a noble goal, but why? Did you grow up in poverty and want to escape it, do you want to be the next great philanthropist, are you competing with others, do you want to be a digital Renaissance man? Money doesn’t solve everything, but it sure as shit helps a lot. The “why” is important for motivation and steeling yourself to get through challenges. It can also stop you from doing something that isn’t helping you.
The context of your why matters. Why do you want a pair of Yeezys? Are you trying to show off to people who ultimately don’t notice or care, Is it Adidas excellent marketing? Are they just the most comfortable shoes you’ve ever owned? Is it because he’s the greatest rapper alive? Is he a racist psychopath? Can you separate the art from the person? You see where I’m going here.
One of the “whys” in my personal life happened one day when my ex was late for a drop off of our son (which is pretty routine). I consider myself fairly punctual and I have a deep set of loathing for being late or making others late. While sitting there raging I thought,” why am I so mad about this?!” and did a little Google research. Turns out, due to childhood abandonment, my brain links tardiness to abandonment. Could there be other causes? Sure. But, a lot of times the simplest explanation is the right answer. Asking why and then finding an answer has saved me a lot of frustration. So what’s your why?